Recently, my family and I stumbled into Half Price books in Redmond, WA after the fabulous happy hour at Matadors. We often walk around about while slightly "happy" just for fun and to walk off a bit of the joy, if you know what I mean.
When in a bookstore, which is an all too rare experience these days, I browse through the self-help and psychology books since that's my interest, lookin for good bits, inspiration, insights, etc and on this occasion, I happened upon "A Way of Being" by the founder of humanist psychology "Carl Rogers". Aside from a minor in psychology and many years of direct study with excellent therapists (Ron Kurtz, Amina Knowlan, and Jon Eisman), I haven't read a great deal outside my specific training, so there is much for me to learn out there. That's not for lack of trying, but I find most to be narrow, or not resonant enough with working from place in mindfulness. In this case I found something that not only validated my beliefs, but my personal experience.
If you think “I just can’t be mindful” – this article is for you.
Ok so you’re not a meditation person, and can’t think of anything worse than trying to sit still focusing on your “feelings”. Seems stupid to try to have some kind of big experience when there’s so much going on and besides, it’s just boring. And all this talk about “accepting the moment”. Hey, things are bad in the world and my rent doesn’t get paid by “accepting” that I owe it. Stuff has to get done! Change needs to happen.
At the same time, there’s a lot of talk about mindfulness, blah blah blah and it would be good to be happier and enjoy life more. But it seems like everything you’ve tried just doesn’t work or isn’t “for you”. And you don’t want to ditch the moral outrage you have about the injustices in the world in order to find peace. What good is peace if you just bury your head in the sand?
I get it. I really do.
Here’s an easy way to bring more mindful moments into your life and model how to do so for others.
There is a simple and powerful practice to improve your communications and capacity to be mindful. It is, quite simply, to pause before you speak and consider how you feel about what is going in the moment. Don’t stop reading here. This deceptively simple suggestion has profound power.
Well done description. Mindfulness as a superpower. Makes the point that jogging used to be considered something unusual and that Mindfulness will be like that in years to come. He asserts that the path to mindfulness is through meditation. I would refine that. That is A path, but not THE path. There are lots of others.
There’s not a lot of magic in life (well actually there is, but that’s another post), but this is a nice trick you can use anytime. Simply ask yourself “am I mindful now?” – answer is always yes. If you weren’t mindful when you asked, you have to become mindful in order to answer the question.
Many people find it challenging to sit still. Others find the thought of willing yourself into disciplined practice of daily meditation an overwhelming experience, just too big to fit into an already busy life. Plus there’s so much information on what to do, and how to do it that it’s hard to know where to begin.
So here’s how.